A godly marriage is a reflection of the Gospel, of supernatural unity and love. When a couple receives Christ into their lives and into their relationship, others will see the solidarity, health and purity, and will glorify God. Read Diane’s story below of how God is progressively changing her marriage:
My husband and I were headed for divorce. We had sabotaged our marriage and lives with our participation in drugs and porn, and many other sinful acts. We were sinking fast. After I ended up in the hospital—almost losing my hand to an unknown infection—we were financially wiped out and homeless. Selfishness, blame, regret, shame, hate and self-loathing overwhelmed me.
I would drive to work, passing that big orange "G" sign twice a day. I had a Christian background but backslid after a bitter divorce, loss of my home, father’s death and even the death of my dog, all in the span of a year. I blamed God and didn’t trust Him. I went home and told my husband, "I'm going to that church.” He went as well. I had been to other church services with my husband, but he would make excuses to go outside or leave early. When we attended Grace and he dropped my hand and went to the altar, I almost fainted! He listens, he’s obedient, he wants to learn more and was recently baptized, and I rededicated my life, too. We are clean from drugs and debauchery. THANK YOU, LORD! — Diane
It is Satan’s desire to dismantle marriages. Destroyed marriages mean destroyed homes. Destroyed homes means division and discord in families, and this lack of harmony is not where God is glorified. But we are not unaware of Satan’s devices (2 Corinthians 2:11). We are alert to how the enemy uses everything from sexual immorality and shame, to self-righteousness and impatience to divide and conquer our relationships.
As we receive Jesus into our individual lives—admitting our sins, and committing our thoughts, behaviors and lives to Him—we will begin to identify where the adversarial interference is. We will know that it is our sinful nature that we need to own, and then surrender to God. Ephesians 2:1-5 says,
“As for you, you were dead in your transgressions and sins, in which you used to live when you followed the ways of this world and of the ruler of the kingdom of the air, the spirit who is now at work in those who are disobedient. All of us also lived among them at one time, gratifying the cravings of our flesh and following its desires and thoughts. Like the rest, we were by nature deserving of wrath. But because of his great love for us, God, who is rich in mercy, made us alive with Christ even when we were dead in transgressions—it is by grace you have been saved.”
Living an obedient life in the pools of God’s grace doesn’t require perfection. It requires admission from each of us that we are sinful by nature. It requires honesty about ourselves to God, and in a marriage, to each other.
As you live your life accountable to God, stepping into His grace and forgiveness, you’ll begin to see how it affects and brings life to those closest to you. Let your story be one that reflects the Good News of Jesus and brings glory to our loving, gracious and amazing Father!